Good evening,
This 2nd book i read is called "Making friends" by Andrew Matthews. Every week, my teacher told me i needed to read and book. Its the 2nd week, its the 2nd book! Making friends is another book i chose and bought from Kinokuniya. A good book for a person with problems socially.
One part of the book caught my attention. The topic was on "Judging People". Most people see an ideal friendship as "acceptance" and "non-judgement"....." He never judges me",......"she accepts me as i am...." This is kinda true, I feel. When we cease to constantly judge others, we find greater peace of mind. It is very often in our daily lives, we hear people criticising how their friends live. "She is far too fat to wear that frilly dress!" "He should know better than to spend all his money on video games!" When we make these type of judgements, we sabotage our own peace of mind - we let ourselves be disturbed that things are not as they "should be" or "should have been". Great joy comes from accepting others the way they are. Peace of mind comes from a change in attitude, not circumstances.
What what you prefer as a gift - a card, or a car? Many would choose the car. Another example, Fred gives his wife roses for her birthday and she is mad. She says :"You give me pathetic flowers? That watch i bought you on your birthday cost me a ton!" Here, Fred's wife see a present as an exchange for what she gave Fred. Is giving equivalant to exchanging? When you give, YOU GIVE! Giving makes someone feel grateful, not guilty. In a nutshell, Giving without conditions may sound like "spiritual advice". Actually, it is very practical, and it can eliminate alot of resentment.
This book had nice pictures, good content and a good sum up. A book to be picked up, off the book shelves and read.
Jay
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